Design a life you love

I started reading this book “Designing your life” – How to build a well lived joyful life.

I am such a nerd about books and reading ones that make me think critically about my life.

So far this month I’ve been waking up early before work to read and write.

It’s been amazing.

My days are longer and I feel better.

My favorite part?

All day I get to think and chew on the stuff I learned before 8am. Pairing that with exercise at least every other day and I feel more confident than ever. Now I just need to keep this up.

There are a few principles to this book in the introduction that I wanted to share with you today.

Are you one of those people out there working a job you don’t like?

If that’s the case then this article can point you in the right direction for positive change.

If you are happy and living your best life, congratulations that is really wonderful because 80% of people aren’t satisfied with their careers.

I’ve been there and I’m actively working on building the best life possible which is why I want to write this for all of you.

This book started off as an elective course at Stanford University until it was made into a book for all of us who obviously can’t go to Stanford.

They begin by stating a few dysfunctional beliefs that society falls into a trap by and then how to reframe these beliefs.

  1. Your degree determines your career.
    1. Three-quarters of college grads don’t end up working in a career related to their majors.
  2. If you are successful, you will be happy.
    1. True happiness comes from designing a life that works for you.
  3. It’s too late.
    1. It’s never too late to design a life you love.

I like the approach. Designing a life you love is a mindset, not a roadmap of “here is what you need to do to be just like everyone else.” Our lives weren’t meant to be generalized. I don’t want that normal life. I want a life filled with love from the moment I wake up to the moment my head hits the pillow at night. I want to go to sleep with a grin on my face because I’m saying thank you in my prayers over and over.

A well designed life is a life that is generative- it is constantly creative, productive, changing, evolving, and there is always the possibility of surprise.”

This book is about asking personal questions and trying new things. There are 5 mindsets included and they are:

  1. Be curious.
  2. Try stuff.
  3. Reframe Problems.
  4. Know it’s a process.
  5. Ask for help.

And then this little bit of info that just floored me.

Anti-passion is the way to find our passion.

YES! I’ve been stuck on this exact same wrong mindset.

“Find your passion and then you can find your career.”

Most of us have many passions.

We want to live lives that have meaning but we don’t know where to utilize our passions and make them a career.

For example, I am a passionate person by nature. Literally everything, just ask my friends. I go on these tangents about this or that because I’m just a passionate person.

When we try out different paths as prototypes it doesn’t matter what we are passionate about we can find out what works and what doesn’t and then who knows with a little faith along the way a failure could turn into your best life. Just ask the guy who made play-doh.. that shit was not made on purpose.

I love the idea of designing your life by who you truly are, what you believe and then taking that and having it all line up together.

I am truly excited by this and I want to share it with the world.

The book can be purchased here.

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